Paradox
There are many good things about living 3,000 miles away from your mother, especially when your relationship has always been rocky at best. I truly, without irony or sarcasm, believe this separation has done wonders for our relationship. But there are times when I wish we weren't quite so far away.
My mom and dad are 83 and 82 respectively, and the last time they came to visit it was very difficult for them. The travelling was not pleasant, even when Air Canada provided a wheelchair. Once they arrived, there were adjustments, some successful, some not so much. And yes, when my mother comes to stay there is always the possibility of some serious fireworks. And tears. Have I mentioned the tears?
And yet.
When I spend time with my husband on Georgian Bay, one of the things that I cannot get away from is how much my mother would love it. The scenery. The wildlife. The simple beauty of it all. She would adore it as much as the daughter she raised to appreciate those kinds of things does. And not being able to share it with her is hard.
The truth is: I want my mother to appreciate the life I have found. There has always been so much criticism, but now I know she would love who I am and where I am. I wish she was here.
My mom and dad are 83 and 82 respectively, and the last time they came to visit it was very difficult for them. The travelling was not pleasant, even when Air Canada provided a wheelchair. Once they arrived, there were adjustments, some successful, some not so much. And yes, when my mother comes to stay there is always the possibility of some serious fireworks. And tears. Have I mentioned the tears?
And yet.
When I spend time with my husband on Georgian Bay, one of the things that I cannot get away from is how much my mother would love it. The scenery. The wildlife. The simple beauty of it all. She would adore it as much as the daughter she raised to appreciate those kinds of things does. And not being able to share it with her is hard.
The truth is: I want my mother to appreciate the life I have found. There has always been so much criticism, but now I know she would love who I am and where I am. I wish she was here.
posted by allison | 9:45 PM
3 Comments:
I can relate to how hard it is to be 3000 miles away from your parents.
Even if you don't always get along, you love the hell out of them... and as they get older, you want to put the differences aside and just enjoy each other.
It's so hard for me right now, because there's nothing I'd love more than for my mom to only be a couple hours away as I go through my pregnancy. And, for both of my parents to be able to see, and spend time with, Xan more than twice or three times a year.
Though my parents and I don't always see eye to eye about things... I miss them all the time.
I know what you mean. My mom's not far away from me (I'm in Guelph, she's in Simcoe) but we are both such busy people that we rarely see each other.
Moms, even when they drive us bananas, are awesome.
Would you be able to find a nice notebookand make a photo book for her? I've found some handmade notebooks, and I think if she can't be there, you can bring it to her.
Of course that doesn't answer the rest of your entry. Mum's are something special indeed.
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